If you’re anything like me, it can take you a while to fall asleep. I usually don’t feel tired until I’ve been laying in my bed for at least an hour or two, reading a book, praying the rosary, or watching a Christmas Hallmark movie. I’m not like other people who are in a deep sleep just five minutes after their heads hit the pillow.
I wish I was, but it just doesn’t happen for me. But I have found something else that helps me.
When I was a little girl, and of course, even now, and I would hear a whisper or even just a pleasant voice, it would send tingles to the back of my head and even down my spine. It would relax me and even make me sleepy. I’ve experience this sensation for as long as I can remember. I had no idea what the sensation was called or if anyone else experienced it. All I knew was that I loved having someone read to me every night.
As I grew older, I started noticing that other things would give me this sensation, such as the crinkle of a library book (that plastic cover), or the sound of someone typing on a keyboard. I didn’t understand why I was so soothed by the sound or why it gave me the sensation, but I couldn’t get enough of it!
Finally, when I was a junior in college, I was in class, and my professor was lecturing about online communities. He said he found a trend on the internet (YouTube) called ASMR: Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response. What those words actually mean… I have absolutely no idea. But while my professor was showing us this video, I knew that this is what I had been experiencing for 20 years:
As I’ve introduced my friends to this experience, I’ve seen that there’s a variety of responses to this phenomenon. Some people absolutely love it. Others think it is interesting but don’t get the sensation, and a handful of people are simply creeped out by it. Honestly, people even have a combination of these feelings. I know people who feel the tingles yet, are totally creeped out by the whole thing.
There are some videos that I find a bit weird, and of course, I just don’t watch those. I started out with Gentle Whispering (who seems to be the most popular ASMR artist), but I also love Southern ASMR Sounds, ASMR Zelda, and TingleBelle ASMR. Lily Whispers is another popular artist and Soft ASMR doesn’t give me tingles, but her voice is calming and I enjoy watching her videos. Everyone has their favorite(s) and that’s because not everyone has the same triggers, nor does everyone get tingles from the same types of voices.
Here are a few tips for listening to it:
- Keep your eyes shut and don’t focus too much on what you’re hearing. Everything is more about the sounds the artist is making and not so much what’s actually going on.
- Change up who you listen to. It’s easy to become immune to some artists.
- Try out different videos. I know for myself, tapping wasn’t a trigger, but with certain videos, it goes give me tingles.
- Adjust the volume to your liking. Sometimes I need the whispers to be louder, and sometimes quieter.
I’ve met other people who listen to ASMR but never really spoke about it to anyone because they thought “I was the only one.” And that’s how I felt about it as well at first.
So if you’re in that boat, I hope this post helps to bring you some clarity on what you’ve been experiencing and you feel less alone. If you love ASMR like I do, feel free to share who your favorite artists are and if you’ve never heard of it, I encourage you to give it a try 🙂
[Disclaimer: This post is not sponsored by any artists. I just love ASMR and wanted to share!]